My child stammers: what parents can do

What stammering can look like

1. Repeating sounds or parts of words: "b-b-ball".
2. Repeating whole words: "I-I-I want it".
3. Stretching sounds: "sssssun".
4. Getting stuck with no sound coming out (a block).
5. Tension in the face, blinking or looking away while speaking.
6. Avoiding certain words or not wanting to talk.

When to see a speech therapist

1. The stammer has lasted more than six months.
2. It started after age 5, or is getting worse.
3. Your child shows tension, struggle or blocks.
4. Your child is upset, embarrassed or avoids speaking.
5. There is a family history of stammering that continued into adulthood.
6. You are worried. That alone is a good reason.

10 things that help at home

1. Listen to what your child says, not how they say it.
2. Keep calm eye contact and wait. Don't finish their words.
3. Never say "slow down", "take a breath" or "start again".
4. Speak a little slower yourself, with pauses. Children copy the pace around them.
5. Give one-to-one talking time each day, about 5 minutes, with no rush.
6. Ask fewer questions and comment more: "You built a tall tower."
7. Take turns to talk at family meals so nobody has to rush in.
8. Praise effort and ideas, never fluent speech alone.
9. Tell the class teacher so they can respond the same way.
10. If your child mentions it, talk about it openly and kindly: "Sometimes words get stuck. That's okay."

Is stammering normal in young children?

Some repetition is common between ages 2 and 5 while language grows fast. Many children outgrow it, but a stammer that lasts over six months should be checked by a speech therapist.

Should I tell my child to slow down?

No. It adds pressure. Slow your own speech instead, wait patiently and listen to the message.

Can public speaking classes help a child who stammers?

A stammer needs a speech therapist first. Kind, low-pressure speaking practice can later help a child feel braver about speaking up, alongside therapy.